I love reading Vogue, my mum has a subscription and loves me enough to bring it straight over the minute its delivered and let me peruse it at my leisure returning it whenever... I love the clothes, shoes, accessories, bags, and while I am aware these things don't usually fit my personal style, I still love them... I also love the articles, but this one shook me...
'A table for one' Sue White page 88-89 is an article basically fuelling the 'man drought' fire... I always get confused when I hear that there is a man drought, surely with the population fairly equally divided in half I find it all too easy to assume that there is someone out there for everybody... This article uses some pretty bold statements and sweeping generalisations to scare you into a relationship quick smart... Now I know that its probably a bit rough me coming along from a loved up newish marriage talking smack about the man drought, but I feel the need to put some of this out there...
'the women who ultimately find good and lasting relationships never chew up the clock by hanging around the go nowhere relationships' Sue White
'In your 20's there is definitely a sheila shortage in Australia, it's because women in their 20's might prefer a male in their 30's, and men in their 30's often marry younger women. That's good news if you are a single woman in your 20': you have loads of desperate single men, and more candidates for your affection then you can possibly handle. Single men aged 35 - 50 are snapped up pretty quickly, and thirtysomething women can often go through a period of disillusionment between 30 and 35 as the number of available men shrinks dramatically' Bernard Salt the demographer that coined the term man drought, he also advises to lock down your quarry by the time you are 30...
The article suggests going fishing or playing male oriented sports in order to met men rather then clubbing and online dating...
My group of friends are all just about hitting the 30 mark, some are single, others are married with kids... So this is of interest to me, but strangely out of my married friends there is no more then a 3 year age gap, and none of the men were over 30 when they got married, so surely this is just a sweeping generalisation? Unfortunately this article doesn't leave me with the feeling that everyone is different and there is no set rule about how and when you will meet the love of your life, or even that it's okay to be single, whatever happened to the empowered single woman? It leaves me feeling like Vogue has become Cosmo and I don't like it... Had I joined a sport or started fishing instead of casually chatting on a UK Hip Hop forum 5 years ago I never would have met the man that makes me happy...
Its all just a bit blegh... So I put it to you, is there a man drought? Are all the 'good ones' married in live in relationships or gay? Is this all just a scare tactic to make women feel like they need to secure a man?
1 comment:
BS for sure. How about in post-war times? Maybe then! It wouldn't even matter if here and now the ratios are off a bit, it only takes one... Does it even mention the statistical difference? It's probably 102 women to every 100 guys, and the other two guys are probably boring business types that have travelled interstate or overseas (and that doesn't mean they cease to exist). As if that would make a difference... I'm not worried. Besides, you have done your bit by importing one. :)
-- Kelly.
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